Vivian, Dont be embarrassed, for starters! He is a boy who is 6, but having SPD - there are a whole lot of things that can be difficult, even feeling if you are clean or not. Or it could be part of the fine motor skills - I am in no way expert at this - but many here are much more knowledgeable than I am! We definitely went through "skid" row

We also went through some issues of leaking pee - because he would wait way too long to go - and would not be willing to stop playing - or get off of a field to go. Age does come with rewards. Your instincts are the very best ones to follow. In addition keep learning as much as you can about how to help him in ways that you may not have thought of. I sure have learned a lot from this forum!
My son falls down steps pretty often - I used to have flash backs of the many times - I would just miss his shirt grabbing him at the top of steps and him going all the way down! ugh..It wasnt lack of gates either - he was old enough past that stage - he just was not careful - ever. My sons feet have grown - size 7 - size 11 - since last May - so the steps in our home - have become dicier - because of his foot size!!! I dont think its slowing him down though! I did not even think about his foot size, he did, when I questioned why he is falling down a bit more!
I think its great that your son - is aware that slow and steady is a good way to go with the steps! Its also great to not let other kids bother him too much. I find it hard to not feel more anger, than my own kids do, when it comes to the unempathetic, or just plain mean spirited people/kids in the world.
I know that its hard for us being moms, trying to help the boys, without being boys ourselves. It has been an issue here, (the hair washing for instance!). Its not like I would be in a shower with him to help him - so I try to get my husband to help him - but I ultimately found #1 to get the shampoo that is made to strip hair sprays and gel out - because the harshness of those - gets the oil out quickest and best for him. #2 like I said - praise the heck out of him - flattery will get you places, even with the kids! I think it was easy to miss the time frame - of more aggressive hair washing - because he had crew cuts for a little, and did not have such oily hair, before hitting puberty. Suddenly I realized - he is still using little kids stuff!!! :0

stacey