Hi.
I'm here to get a better understanding and perspective of my bf's SPD.

We have been together a year and a half and have been living together almost as long.

He first mentioned SPD as "input-output" disorder. It took a bit of digging on the internet to find the appropriate acronym, but when I mentioned SPD, he acknowledged that that's what his teachers called it back in school.

I had noticed that he was more than clumsy, he seemed incapable of wrangling his limbs, and spilled, dropped, and broke things daily. He is extremely sensitive to light and loves the summer months when we move to the basement to stay cool. He is also incredibly sensitive to sound. He is a talented sound tech, and toured with an international company for years, but the rapid changes and demanding lifestyle took a toll on his body and he stopped. This was long before I met him. He does small community sound jobs that keep his skills sharp. He also has a dreadful time falling asleep. His night must be orchestrated for 6 hours precisely so he can wind down to sleep. His handwriting is completely illegible. He reacts horribly badly to change. Really, really badly to anything he hasn't been prepared for.

In life, he is happy if there'should a roof over his head, a place to sleep, food to eat, and money in the bank. He is sweet, caring, and protective of me. Most other people are inconsequential to him. He suffers no fools and does not put up with BS. He is a wonderful writer. Most of his stories are written such that only he or someone very familiar to him can decipher them, but he can translate them into common English with serious effort.

As far as this relates to SPD, I would like to understand this aspect of him better. I have no desire to change or "help" him. In the very unlikely event he chooses to inform himself better on the subject and sees the need to adjust things, I am absolutely on board to support him, but that is his road to walk or not walk, like my alphabet soup is my business. I am more interested in accommodating his needs as they are right now.

About me: middle-aged female, 1 kid. Alphabet soup galore BD1, PTSD, PD, OCD, agoraphobia. I work on those constantly in therapy and with meds.
most of my spare time is spending time cooking with the kid, reading, and watching movies. I hope to be entering school in the fall... again.
I have an insatiable thirst for knowledge. I love my boyfriend a lot. That's about it.


I welcome any input that is given on SPD, especially resources that have free online access, as part of my alphabet soup keeps me largely house bound, still. Mostly I am looking for people who have personal experience both living with people who have SPD, and people who have it themselves.

Thanks.