I think the automatic emotions are definitely a result of untreated SPD in adult life. After Years of being misunderstood and/or scrutinized for being "different", we're naturally defensive when it comes to it, regardless of if the person was ACTUALLY scrutinizing, judging, etc. my fiancé surely says things that start a mental loop of feeling bad about myself without knowing it at all. Like if I say "god I want to take a shower" he'll say "uhh. Then just, ya know, go take one..." And in my head, it's as if he's saying "do it like NORMAL people do, you freak!" He has no idea that it just isn't that easy. He means no harm, it's just a lack of mutual understanding.