Thank you guys so much!!! So many great suggestions and I agree with all of you -- this is so hard but I am doing the right thing for my son... whether anyone else understands, likes it or not!

I want so badly for my extended family to understand and support me, and hopefully they will come around in their own time. Or maybe they never will... I think I will begin to put some distance between me and them for now.

Angela, thanks for the recommendation for that book... I am going to order it on Amazon. I do not need to be judged or pushed around about my and my husbands decisions for my son. I will be asking about respite care too when EI comes out next week again. I would rather have no support from my family than negative support.

Beck, I totally agree about getting a break -- I do need one... but I fear that the care from the Grandmas that will go on for my son will NOT be what it needs to be from a sensory diet and even potentially food perspective... so I am a little nervous there. I know I can trust one of my good friends and I will look there for support too.

Lynn, I think it is AWESOME that you are seeing a psychologist -- I am too because of all of this. I have to take care of me... even though sometimes my son comes with and tears around the room... it is still FOR ME. And good for you for taking your boys to social skills groups and the like -- I will be doing the same as soon as it is age appropriate, whether any family likes it or not. It is about giving my son the BEST chance possible in his life and I love him so much that I will do anything to make his life the best it can be!

Tdiddy -- sorry to hear that you have had so many issues with judgement at the school! I am already seeing that at such a young age and hopefully they will come around intime too.

Perhaps we can all consider ourselves blessed to see people and the world in a similar way to the way God sees it? For all of its prejudice, judgement and cruelty and ignorance. I mean, I see it so much more clearly having a son with special needs now than I ever knew existed! I can only imagine how much more I will see this as we progress through life with my son... he is only 10 months and it is already so prevalent...

Thanks again to you guys... I don't know what I would do without the support of people like you!!!!