......slouching in his chair.
-He craves rough housing, tackling/wrestling/fighting games.
-He is slow to learn new activities...maybe not physical activities as much as fine motor skill and educational activities.
-He is in constant motion hence the fidgeting...he is only not moving about when playing video games even then he is standing or sitting down fidgeting shaking his legs and body.
-He can find it extremely difficult transitioning from one activity to another resulting in a tantrum or meltdown.
-His understanding is delayed and he takes things out of context and we struggle to get him to make sense of specific things which can result into a tantrum.
-He is always confusing similar sounding words, misinterprets questions and requests.
-He cannot read at all yet and is half way through reception...as his cannot grasp the blending and writing very well he is struggling to read even the basic of words (is, and, it etc.) which is teacher is worried about.

The reason we struggle to get a diagnosis and we are made to think as his parents are we overreacting and looking for excuses...but we just know that there is something there and SPD is ringing alarm bells...its all apart of the same family tree as dyspraxia, autism etc. but they all have their own branches that have a wide spectrum of severity etc.

Do you believe a child who has SPD instead of being "unsociable" can be different with their social skills such as very shy or a bit full on and over friendly!?
This socialbleness is causing these doctors to turn thei heads which is upsetting!
What do you recommend i say and do and what do u believe?

thank you

You have some false stereotypes of autism. Someone with autism isn't necessarily "unsociable" at all; some people are, but not necessarily everyone at all. Some people are over friendly. Some people are very shy. Some people are perfectionists at everything including socialization. Some people don't understand social boundaries so get into people's faces in public.

I'd try to get an evaluation of someone more knowledgeable about autism.

(But whether its SPD, autism, or some other diagnosis with sensory issues, I see no reason you should leave here. Sometimes there's multiple diagnoses even. Personally its multiple for me. )