Thank you both sooo sooo much!!

All the details of what I typed out were broken down and explained to me..which is such a huge relief.

We have an appt. for an OT that is willing to come to our home! She's going to show us the brushing protocol if she feels that my dd needs that. So I'm going to wait on purchasing that. Also she does suggest the oral massager and the chewy tubes and similar things. I did make my dd a weighted blanket that is the size of her bed (twin)...after 7.5 hours of work with 3 kids..I managed to complete it..she LOVES it!! And is cuddling it ALL the time now. I'm so proud that I was able to sew it up for her with the mix of homeschooling, housework, just being mom and all that jazz...

I've been doing alot of reading. Also going to purchase "The Out Of Sync Child Has Fun"....and see what we can do in our home.

The OT knows we're unable to go on a regular basis so she's traveling from ANOTHER town to show us what we need to know and help her with and she's even willing to do housecalls when we need them for a smaller fee than her office visit. We weren't prepared for the price of the OT but if she can get us on the right path and continue to work with us once a month (all we can budget right now) then that's better than her not getting ANY of it.

In the beginning we thought that making her different meals than what we eat was spoiling her but after reading it's better that she EATS than not! So I'd rather make a small portion of something she'll eat on the side of what I make the rest of us for dinner.

DH is coming to terms very well. I've spent the past several days crying alot. As we get to work with her OT and see dd thrive from that therapy then I think I'll feel less hopeless in the situation.

Thanks so much for all you've said and helped explain to me.