Hi!
I am also new here and posted issues concerning dental visits...I totally understand not wanting people touching you and not being able to stand things being in or near particular areas, in your son's case, his ears. I don't know what the solution is as I practice avoidance and do pretty well with that until something bad happens and am forced to confront this issue. Perhaps allowing him to place whatever it is they need to use to look? Maybe just the Dr. understanding his sensitivity and the following reaction would help? Maybe at his age they can avoid looking in the ears unless he is symptomatic? I read about the heavy blankets or quilts to use and about certain activity prior to the appointment that may help prepare his nervous system and make him better able to handle the stimulus but I can't say I have any experience with it. I'm here looking for suggestions too! Hope we find some !