Hi Corissa,
I just wanted to say that you can't blame yourself for your daughter's SPD. I have SPD, and I know my mother wonders if there's something she could have done, but as far as we know, it's not her fault (or your fault) at all. You are fortunate that you have an idea what it is so early. When they are young like that their brains are still changing so much! There are awesome success stories for people who have taken their SPD children to occupational therapy and have had great results. The best I know of is the STAR center in Denver, CO that specializes in SPD, but I'm sure there are other great places too. Just accepting her for who she is and helping her cope with her challenges will be wonderful. That's what I wanted from my mom. God bless her; she did the best she could, but she says if she knew about SPD when I was a child, she would have been more understanding.