Jennifer,
There is a website I absolutely LOVE, especially for things like this. I have fought with schools. And administrators. And, currently, I'm the mother than no one wants to deal with. This is why: I did a LOT of research on Wrightslaw. I don't know if SPD qualifies... my little one with SPD is only 2. But I do have a teenager with some special needs that I had to address with the schools. Nose around the site. There are some really incredible articles. Hope this helps! And remember... you're NOT alone!!!
www.wrightslaw.com
BTW... be forewarned that educators really hate it when you mention wrightslaw. They like to keep it a secret.
Warmest wishes,
Caryn

(09-24-2010, 11:34 AM)Jenniferzwize Wrote: Hello. I am here because I don't know where else to go for advice. My son is 9 years old and in the 3rd grade. He has SPD and goes to special ed for extra help in reading and math. He is super sensitive, very well behaved in school, very caring, & worries a lot. His is hyper sensitive to smells, and sounds. During the spring they put him with a different aid. He would come home upset everyday saying that the woman is mean and yells all the time at other students. I sent the case worker messeges with my concerns and asked they put him with a different aid in the fall. She said she would consider it but basically excused everything my son was saying. This year, I found she put him with the same girl. I decided I'd give things a chance and see how it went. He comes home upset daily. He says he feels scared when she talks, and she's so loud. After doing some research, I realized that this has to do with his Auditory defensiveness. "may decide whether they like a person by the sound of their voice." He tells me she gives him headaches. After many emails back and fourth with the Case worker, I finally came right out and told her I believe her voice is affecting his ability to learn because of his sensory issues. She called me today basically saying that she is the only one that she has to work with him, and if I don't like it, I can pull him out of special ed. She said a lot of kids get headaches, and he needs to learn how to deal with it. I was wondering if I could get some other opinions? I don't feel like this is something he can just "get over." If that was the case, none of us would be on this site. I don't know what to do, I feel so bad for my son. I don't know what the right thing to do is. Any thoughts and ideas would be appreciated.

Thanks,
Jennifer[/font]