lol, from one quirky gal to another - thanks!

I'll try steps 1 & 2 and see how that goes. The OT we use is an in-school OT, but I'm really starting to doubt her - she has not spoken to the teacher about my son or SPD at all in the first term (we're in South Africa, and have 4 school terms per year that start in January). She's also really not great at giving feedback and when she says she'll do something, or contact us about something, she almost never does - so it's hard to trust her. She claimed she was going to run sessions for all the teachers to educate them on sensory issues and things they can do in class that would benefit ALL kids, not just those with SPD, but that still hasn't happened.

My 6 year old is Matthew. He's a little lithe thing with a great sense of humour, and he loves cars and gymnastics and board games (and irritating his 3 year old sister, and tickling his 1 year old sister).
With regards to SPD - he technically rather has SMD - sensory modulation disorder. The OT did the SIPT in January and likened his modulation difficulties to having floodgates open permanently.

He gets so overloaded in class - and with classrooms aimed at being stimulating and engaging (supposedly) for normal kids, to him it's a nightmare. Yesterday was the first day of term 2 and I was braced for a major meltdown after school - instead I got a note to say he bit someone. Basically someone pushed him out of the line (strike 1 being unexpected, unwelcome touch, strike 2 being percieved injustice as for some reason Matt thinks his place in line is insanely important) - and then when he asked the boy to let him back in his place, the other boy refused and wouldn't let him into the line (strike 3)... From what he said/how he told me what happened, I could tell he got overloaded very early yesterday and lashed out. He hasn't bit anyone since he was 2 and another girl kept biting him, so he bit her back, so this is not at all a normal thing for him.

Some days I really wonder if there's any way to truly help these kids succeed when not everyone is on board. As much as I can and DO do at home, I'm not at school, I can't watch for signs that he's overloading/heading for a meltdown and needs a break/redirection. There is really only so much I can do...

So he went off this morning with a note of apology(am I wrong for thinking the other boy should have to apologise as well?) and a treat for the boy he bit, and we practiced an apology to say to the teacher. So hopefully no notes today. They just undo me.