Beautifully said! I do not have it, my son does and I refuse to enable him. I had a brother who I now believe had SPD and my mother coddled him allowed him to do whatever ( this was an era when people didn't know what to do so he didn't get proper therapy) there was no structure , etc... He was never able to succeed, went through jobs like water, had severe emotional problems, couldn't stand to be within his own skin, etc... She never made him finish something he started, she always felt bad for him, I refuse to feel bad and do what she did, I saw the outcome of that. I don't allow her to treat my son like that either! My child will grow up to be a successful adult, doesn't need to be successful with money, but successful with life and self worth, and I need to help him to achieve that goal. I refuse to enable, I do it all through love, support, structure, consistency, etc... It is very trying at times but this child did not ask to be born, and definately did not ask to be born with SPD so we need to help make their life as better as possible for them, teach them the tools they need to help them cope. The first way to do that is to come to an understanding, once you can do that then you will be successful at helping your own child. I was so relieved to get a diagnosis when Logan was 1, that is when I was able to finally get the tools he needed to help him! I had my moments of feeling so awful that my poor baby had to live with this, but I was not going to allow my feelings to deny him help. A friend of mine always refers everything back to herself, it has NOTHING to do with her, it has to do with her child, her adopted daughter has SPD, she is 8 and is now getting help. I have told her over and over again! She frustrates me, but finally she is doing something about it! Because she is hypoactive she didn't think so, because she seems my son who moves like a rocket she didn't think it possible! She acts like this child is bed ridden, I told her there are other children who have much worse things with them, you can find the tools to help your daughter stop referring back to your childhood and focus on hers. Now I went on a rant because it irritates me! lol Sorry, anyway.... I guess my point is.... whether it is SPD or spectrum, or Autism, or whatever it may be, you take that and run, you go and find out what you need to do, use, cope. Read to help yourself cope but to be strong for your child so you can give them that chance ot lead that normal life with the coping skills they need to have a "normal" life. Please do not misinterpert my tone at all, I just know , because I have seen it with many of my friends who have children with autism who will end up in group homes when they are older, you cannot sit around feeling sorry for yourself, you have to be very active in your child's life it helps for you to feel great and your child will benefit from it.