I am sure someone can, I always just had him out there and dealt with the behavior as it came. Our library always had story time, a play area, play dates with good friends of mine that have kids with similar ages and understand the issues, thankfully, because he belted my friends daughter twice and gave her a bloody nose each time! Don't be afraid to have her do things, this is life and she needs to learn to adapt just with more tools then most kids! Go to school and talk to the school's social worker, ask her about different groups and what books she can suggest. I will ask my son's social worker as well that he sees. He has group time with her and these are things he is still working on! He is in third grade, but I had him in school at 3. Get it going! Remember sometimes they listen better to outside people, like a teacher. Kids will come and go but when she does find that one friend they will stay no matter what. I have had to endure kids calling my son crazy. It hurts like hell, but kids are mean when they don't understand. Socialization is so important and never worry about what some other adult thinks, just be close by when she is playing with other kids, take her for breaks, bring her weighted blanket with and say "Maybe you need to take a little break right now." You never know she might like that classroom setting, a lot of them do because of the routine and structure! I will write my son's social worker tomorrow and ask her about some books. I'll let you know what I hear! there will always be big issues, once one is gone another pops up so don't stress yourself out. She will be fine and so will you. Try her in a half day program, fill up that back pack with heavy stuff and get her a sit fit cushion, lap pad, etc and give her time. She will eventually get it, but the longer you want the harder it will be for her to adjust.