Hi am new to the forum so my post is a little late but I was wondering if any of you have tried disconnecting from them when they have "melt down" or there behavior is out of control? It's a method that is recommended to all parents with or without child(ren) with disorders. It takes the control away from them. We put our son in a quiet room and just walk away--within a few minutes--sometimes ten or more he will come out apologizing and ready to remedy the issue. We also have him bounce when he's beginning to feel frustrated about something. The small exercise trampolines are great to release that frustration anxiety. Heck even I use it at times. WE learned along time ago trying to discuss his behavior when he is enraged gets us know where--the walk away--disconnect method works much better for us. Even in a public setting it works.