Ahhhhh, now I can help a little! I have a sensory seeker!!!!!! Penmanship- fine motor!!! HE probably hates to do it because it is too hard for him. Toss out the pencil and use something else. Shaving cream if he can tolerate it to draw letters in, allow him to type, that will build fine motor strength and he is still learning his letters for now while building the strength. Have him do at least one writing thing but make it fun! LIke a dot-to - dot or maze.Feed off of his interests that will get him working! If he can tolerate play dough, that is great for it, squeezing it builds strength!!! If not plastic tweezers picking up small toys out of beans, rice, in a container that you can put a lid on and put away when done. With therapy he will get over the paint and glue, believe me!!! lol, but there is always..... Ziploc bag with cornstarch and water mix ( we call it moon mud) and can move finger over the top of the bag and it will slowly move around, give the feeling without all the mess on his hands for now, you can use it for learning letters, spelling, doing math etc. ! balloon with baking soda in it or stress ball for strength in hands.

Ummmmm- sensory seeking!!!!! know this one all to well!!! Heavy work... help carry in groceries; milk, juice, etc... fill wagon with heavy toys. Outside move the landscaping bricks, yeas I am serious, weighted vest, blankets, lap pads. Running , jumping, before you go somewhere.

Punishment: pushups, yes, I know it has been a hit on here! lol I do it, it is great for deep pressure for them!!!

You said about the watch, go with it, get him a chart, let him know ahead of time what he is going to be doing, set a timer if possible for when that task or whatever will be done or show him on his watch, get a cardboard clock and set it to show him what it will look like on his watch! ( learn time telling as well!)

Smells: My son won't come in the kitchen if I make oatmeal, eggs, asiago cheese lol . He will only eat white American cheese not the orange colored one! I think until you get a little further with some therapy I would let this one slide, but remind him that sometimes you might be somewhere and you will just have to smell it. There is always the reminder that life is not always planned out and sometimes things just happen , that is very hard for my son, I never realized how much I discuss with him about what our day is going to consist of before we do it, but I always throw in things could change and our plans might go as we hoped. Try to avoid that meltdown!!!! Let him know in advance we are eating something stinky tonight, and make a joke out of it, like stinky sock stew, maybe he will want to help.

I remember a time when my son was younger and we were in the store he started screaming and putting his hands over his ears because of a noise that probably only he and a dog could hear. I had to leave my cart and go. He is young enough where you could get him headphones or let him have an ipod or something that plays music while you are out in a situation like that if he can tolerate it. My son wore headphones to the show , parades, (still those). He is pulled from lunch to eat in a quiet room and only goes to 15 minutes of music class because he cannot tolerate the different pitches of the singing, the instruments are ok, but not the singing. Or for the public bathrooms let him know that you will have paper towels in your purse and he will not have to use the hand dryer, but someone might be, but he won't have to.

The being rough is because of the sensory seeking, they just don't realize how rough they are being. I think poor gross motor comes with the territory, my son still has yet to ride a bike he is 8, he loves his scooter though. He is determined to learn.

Gradually ween him into the group, let him know that he will be allowed to take a break from the group after he is with the group for a period of time ( again the watch), get him picture cards that show him his day , what he will be doing at the co-op this might help him want to be a part of it. Sit fit cushions are great, my son has used his since pre-k. Finger picking, get him a fidget toy, therapy shoppe has a ton of great items for fidget toys!!!! If you have an idea of what you are going to be doing in advance in the co-op that would be great then you can prep him as to how his day is going to be with possible changes.

My son takes everything VERY literally, so I always have to be careful of my wording, one time I told him we had to "run" to the grocery store. He was not happy, he told me " We are not literally running to the store, are we?" I almost died! First I did not know he knew the word literally, and that is when I realized how he "literally" takes things!

I just asked my son what he does when he has to be around food that stinks, he said he puts his shirt over his face. lol I honestly don't have a clue about the bathroom issue, sorry. If you are not sure ask him, what would make you feel better, like the crayons, what makes them hairy and how can we make that different for you. If he can help you out verbally with his needs ask away!!!! Otherwise it is a guessing game until you hit it! I will try and think of some other things. Look online too for more fine motor ideas that he can tolerate. Have a great night!!!!!!