I happen to have lucked into the best OT therapist I could have hoped for. The first one was a student and although she was eager to help, she couldn't really educate me or make any progress with my son. I think if you cannot connect with the therapist, you need to let her know that it's not personal, but you need to tray someone else. My OT therapist spends an incredible amount of time educating, explaining, sympathizing and GIVING SOLUTIONS, recommendations, suggestions --- she is moving at the pace I want her to, which I think is pretty accelerated, because my son really needs to get passed some of these issues quickly. He's missing a lot of school because he can't get shoes and socks on, and in a public school I would have been before a truancy board by now, but I don't have time to go slow. She taught me the brushing, but when that wasn't working fast enough she introduced me to the Jeanie Rub Variable Speed Massager, and this baby has only been in our house a couple of days, but it really seems to be making a difference. The key is certainly to learning as much as you can, surrounding yourself with people who know more than you, trying everything and keeping what works and letting go what doesn't. It's a long process. It's exhausting, it's stressful and it will take you to the edge of the cliff.