my son is 8 with SPD, two weks ago there was a game being played where they grab on each others coats and wipe each other, well anothe rboy was on top of his friend, ( he does not like anyone he cares about to be bothered ugh)he grabbed this boy and would not let go finally he wiped him and ripped his coat so bad the stuffing came out. Needless to say I had to pay for a new coat, anyway... I have made the principal, asst. principal , his social worker, teacher aware etc... The school was pretty good, he had to go to the asst. principal office, he spoke with him ( of course he did not know why he did it) he lost recess, I made him write a letter of apology to the asst. principal becuase he lied to him about telling me that this happened. The principal emailed the teachers about supervising better on the playground and to discuss appropriate games with the children.

Social skills.... that is tough for them already, but sometimes I think that he has no remorse for his actions, he too blurts out things without thinking about it before he says it. I think this is due to his impulse problems. It used to be hitting or biting people, now it is his mouth! My son sees a social worker at school and is in social groups in school, we recently joined cub scouts, his former OT told me to get him into as many social groups as you can. There are social books for kids, go over with him what could have happened to taht boy and would he want it done to him. I find putting him into the other persons shoes gives a bit more of a visual to them and understanding.

I recently learned that it is hard for a person within the spectrum to make eye contact, so maybe he looks away because ther eis so much input coming at him, you are angry, maybe your voice is raised or a different tone, and your facial expressions I am sure are off the chart. THat is a lot of input for him to take in, maybe come up with a differnt way to get him to understand what he did. Try and think of something to have on hand to redirect, try and train new behaviors for these actions, if you can tell he is going to go in for hte touch of someone else maybe make him visualize that there is a bubble around this person and you cannot pop it. Everyone has their own space and you can't invade it.

Unfortunately my son is a follower and will follow the kid who is jumping on a trampoline that is on a mountian ledge! Repeatedly going over how to make the right choices, dont do what everyone else is doing especially if you know it is wrong. It can be exhausting, but you will see some changes through repetition, you just need to find a way that works for him. THink about what he likes and incorporate it into his sensory diet, use picture cards, get on same page with teacher about what you are doing with him at home so he can get used to it at school as well. FInd a visual punishment chart that he can see what it is he has done and there are consequences for his actions. I have to use a stop light system and he knows when he can move his thing to the next day or not. It wil be ok, it is just a matter of finding what works for your child! Have a great weekend!