The only peaceful time I get is in the evening after my DD falls asleep (8-8:30). I always intend to read, relax, have a glass of wine, but I end up scouring the internet hoping to find some answer to the toileting or behavior dilemma, which I know is fruitless, but I keep trying anyway. I've been giving it a lot of thought, and I think the frequent meltdowns started when we switched to my daughter-in-law doing daycare. That probably means I should consider changing her to a new one or back to the previous one, but now family is involved, so I have to be positive that that is what it is. I'm just so darn frustrated. Everything is so much work!! I drive home from work Mon-Fri holding my breath hoping it will be a good night so I can actually enjoy being with my family, which had always been my favorite thing to do. And I spend all day Sat and Sun exhausted because of the immense effort it takes to cope with the accidents and tantrums that happen or feeling like I need to walk on eggshells to somehow keep the tantrums from happening. I think I may need to start seeing a therapist just to stay sane.