Odemus
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Joined: Jul 2012
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RE: how do i punish my spd child
we use the "1..2..3 Magic" our oldest get lost when you take time to talk when hes already in action of a wrong...
So 1 is a ALL Encompass warning to ALL things.... 1 is a FULL STOP of your action ... 2 is a FULL on warning of punishment, and 3 is punishment... 99% of the time that is a time out, and time out is ALWAYS on a clearly marked area of the house that never changes, in public its agenst a wall.... we NEVER leave a area due to behavior, i feel that enables a child to get what he wants... i act up.. i get to go somewhere new or home. right where I want to be.
I also always sit them facing out so back agenst the wall eyes out.. and he stayes there till he does at least 4 minutes if not longer, and if hes crying or calling out to me i dont respond and he dosnt get out of time out till hes stopped his "loud" crying, ... on rare intances say he excaped our safty messures and ignores me and runs into the road and nearly missed getting creamed by a car.. he gets a spanking 1-2 smacks on the butt with my hand, and a hard voice "THATS timeout,Mister!!!"
after time outs is when i talk to him and get him to repeat back what he did wrong and WHY it was wrong.. i also make him say he's sorry to injured party or to me .. then if something needs cleaning up, like he broke something then we clean it up togeather... time outs and talking to's is ALWAYS followed by hugs and love yous,, and when we clean up, its always done as partners with lots of good jobs,... and we never hold a time out in grudge.. so if its his 3rd timeout of the day theres no yelling or I cant belive your in T.O. AGAIN!! each T.O. is treated as if its the 1st one of the day....
i also know days will be worst then others... and food can change his moods, if he hasnt had enough protien his days spiral in to meltdown after meltdowns... so i try to give my picky eater as much protien in a day.. also under DRs orders coffee, as coffee calms him down... he doent get it everyday... but i do use coffee on bad days to try to help him reset to a better day.
good luck.
I have 2 with SPD, so its all trial.. our youngest is almost 3 and we STILL havent found a way to reach her in this chapter of the book of Life
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07-16-2012, 12:46 AM |
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