Thanks everyone! The meeting went well and I'm feeling reassured. Hubby didn't go, but I guess I shouldn't be surprised. He's been to only one of four meetings, and he was upset after that one. I think because he's still in a bit of denial that anything is wrong.

For next year, he won't have any extra support for math, which is his strength. He'll continue to get help with writing which is his weakest area. He'll have social skills group still but will also get help with coping with anxiety. Overall, he's had a super year considering it was a big transition for him to middle school. It's just in the last 5-6 weeks that his anxiety and stress levels have gone up. We thought it was a combination of things--he was out sick for a day, his 11th birthday in May, being taken out of class for testing, no consistent schedule during this end of school year time (more field trips, special guests, etc). His anxiety has gotten better over the last day or two.

I'm going to have him end the private social skills group he goes to every Monday. The doc says he is a role model for the other boys (2 are on the spectrum, 1 is SPD/ADHD/OCD). But I'm going to start the one-on-one again. Instead of going to the woman he had been seeing (at same office as his social skills), I'll see if his social skills doc has any individual therapy appts open. Maybe my son would be more comfortable with that doc.

I do give him the reassurance when he says those negative things. I try to counter them with the positive things I see in him. I continue to reassure him that I will love him always, no matter what he does, no matter what. I tell him how much I would miss him if he was gone.

It's hard sometimes because I feel like the blind leading the blind. I don't always handle my own anxiety and depression well, how am I supposed to help and guide him?

He doesn't have asthma. He does have seasonal allergies but he rarely takes any allergy medicine for it. He takes chewable Claritin. He wouldn't tolerate any of the ones you squirt in the nose.