What works best for my son is to have a routine. The hard part is to add something new to that routine. Maybe you can talk to her about homework and reading, now that she is a big girl in school. Make a visual schedule together, from getting dressed in the morning and brushing her teeth, to going to school, and finding a good time to do homework and read. Talk about it, remind her, and be consistent. It'll get easier. Also try heavy muscle work, chewing gum, or a wiggle seat.

At our house, my older son has gotten used to having down time when he gets home from school. I try to have him do something active. When the weather is nice, he rides his bike, jumps on the trampoline when we have it up, or swings on the swing set. We have dinner, then homework, shower every other night, and then reads for 30 minutes before bed. This worked fairly well in the past. Until this year--he started 5th grade and there is more homework. I've been trying to get him to start his homework before dinner so it doesn't get too late at night, but he has a meltdown because of the change of routine. He'll sit down to do his homework without much fuss when it's "homework-time" but cries and has meltdown if I try to have him do it another time. So I need to follow my own advice and set the new routine and be consistent about it.