Thanks for your replies. I do take his own food everywhere we go. Have done to his parties for friends but these where usually at places like play barns where they can run wild in a group. If you know what I mean.

I am more concerned about the fact that yes they may feed him something they shouldn't because they haven't a clue about allergies and that he runs mad when confined to indoors. He can't sit still, doesn't sit and play quietly, constantly in your face, touches everything, ask questions that some people find awkward. I feel he can be quite a burden on others, not my friends cos they have seen him grow up and know what he is about.

From an onlookers view he looks like a naughty child. I have had loads of comments from shoppers who think he needs to be smacked or I have been told to walk away, or people have stood staring while he has a tantrum.

I couldn't put this on others shoulders but want him to be accepted as "normal". Maybe I am over sensitive on this one. I have 4 children other than him who went to play and stayed for dinner etc without any problems.