Thanks Lynn! I feel better reading your post. When I meet with his teacher, I just don't like feeling like I'm the only mom on this path - thanks.

Picky eaters: We did one on one OT for that for awhile, but it never worked. Then I happened to find a GROUP. That is the key for us. We go for 90 minutes, 1x week. They play with the food, he comes out covered in stuff - they can just tap in on their teeth, or at the end, they can take a bite, and spit into the trash, they love the spitting. Somehow it's lowered his food anxiety. His main thing was he would never TRY a bite of things. He won't try a whole lot, but he will try some now. That has been really exciting. One neat fact I learned was, the OT said, 99% of the extreme picky eater cases she has encountered, had reflux as infant. I didn't think my DS did, but looking back, I called it SPITUP, so he totally did. Can't change it now, but it created a lifelong food=pain association. I like knowing this stuff, it relieves the mom guilt, that I have not fed him exciting food or whatever, that it's my fault.