Hi! Welcome! I love how you related it to putting on glasses! That's a great description! It's amazing how you think your child just has some sort of quirk but then you read about all the seemingly unrelated symptoms or check list items--and you just think, Wow, *that's* my child!

It's great that you know about this now when he's 3. Though sometimes it is hard to know if the behavior is something sensory related or if they're just being 3. I wish I'd known earlier (my son was 6 at diagnosis), mostly because I would've had more patience with potty training him. We struggled through it from 30 months to about 47 months before he finally got the hang of it. I'm sure it was because he either didn't feel the sensation of needing to use the bathroom, or he didn't make the connection between the sensation and needing to use the bathroom. He actually night trained (~41 months) before he day trained. Have you had any luck with potty training yet? My younger son (6) isn't officially diagnosed since his SPD seems more mild. He was easier to day train (took only ~3 weeks around his 3rd birthday), but he is still in GoodNites/UnderJams at night, some nights he soaks through the pull-ups.

It's hard to not feel that parent guilt. And the looks you get when you're out in public. Like, why can't you control your child? It can be isolating since I started to stay home more often just so we wouldn't have to deal with the meltdowns out at stores or wherever.

My older son is sensory avoider/defensive, younger is sensory seeker, and I'm more avoider/defensive. My younger son loves to give and get big bear hugs all the time, loves crashing into things. He can't sit next to you, he has to sit on you and then play with your hair.

Welcome to the group!